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Take Pride in Your Flag (Spotify Review)

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The New Eugenics (Spotify Review)

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A Journey of Transition - Carolyne's Story - Part One (Spotify Review)

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In The Beginning (Spotify Review)

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On the 14th of February 2026 I received this listener's question, which was wonderful to receive.

If you became an MP today, what would be the first policies you would implement?

My first policy would be to restore the provision of puberty blockers for transgender children and young adults.

Next would be to address the Supreme Court ruling in April 2025, that disenfranchised trans people, by reinterpreting the Equality Act 2010, although in reality it impacted trans girls/women, to a greater extent than trans boys/men. The Supreme Court demonstrated a fundament misunderstanding of what gender identity is, it is not determined by physiology, but psychology, we all have a gender identity, even cisgender people.

And thirdly, increase support for renewable energy as we only have this planet, and if we break it, we cannot ask, can we have a replacement?

On the 18th of February 2026 I received this very insightful listener's question.

Why do some people come out as trans when they are very young and other people take most of their lifetime to do the same? Is there more than one kind of trans person? Thanks.

There can be many factors that determine when a person comes out as trans, or for that matter nonbinary.

For myself being born in the early sixties, and perhaps for others of a similar vintage, a lack of awareness that ones gender identity, for some, may differ from the sex they were assigned at birth was a factor.

Also for those who come out later in life, past parental expectation and lack of awareness of what it means to be trans, could mean if a child behaved in a manner associated with the opposite gender, they may well have been told that this behaviour is wrong for a boy, a trans girl, or girl, a trans boy.

Society would have played a part, be it school, family relations and friends, and gender representation in films, television, radio, newspapers and magazines.

The message for a long while was, there are two genders, and that people are only born female or male.

All these factors are a pressure to conform, and perhaps was why a trans person may not come out until much later in their life.

I have a theory which perhaps I will expand upon in a future podcast, that like the five stages of grief, there are five stages that a trans person goes through.

Confusion, Doubt, Denial, Questioning and Acceptance.

Why do I feel this way, is this wrong, I do not want to feel this way, maybe there is a reason why I feel this way and finally, I am trans.

But what determines why some people come out as trans at a younger age, awareness now of the diversity of gender identities, is a definite factor, thank you the World Wide Web, and the intensity of gender incongruence a person experiences will also play a role, as will how confident they are about their true gender identity.

Now if a child questions the gender identity they should be given the help to affirm their gender identity, both socially and medically in respect of halting them going through the wrong puberty.

I said should, because post the Cass Review and the Supreme Court Ruling which redefined the meaning of the Equality Act 2010, and came up with a meaningless term, “biological sex”, now a trans child must feel that they are a second class citizen.

I worry about the psychological stress trans children must be under, when they are attempting to assert their gender identity, when all around the wider world is telling them they are wrong about what they inherently know is true, I doubt if I was young now I would find it easy to stand up to this pressure.

And speaking of psychological stress, imagine how a trans girl who had been attending and been accepted in Girlguiding, must feel to be told as of September 2026 you must leave because in the eyes of the law you are a boy.

One aspect noticeable about all the various roll back of trans rights, such as in sport, or services is that they start by talking about transgender people, but the only examples they give are about trans female people, it as if they seem to be unaware of the existence of trans male people.

As to is there more than one kind of trans person? I would say in a sense there is as many kinds of trans persons as there are trans people, every trans person will have a unique experience of what it means to be trans, and although they will follow the path made by those before them, their path will have its own unique twists and turns.